In my opinion, resolutions are not much more than wishes. Elusive goals that people make with the best of intentions, but rarely keep.
Sure I want to write a list of all the things I’m going to do differently this year and how I’m going to become a ‘new’ person. But I know better than that. In a month I will have forgotten. In 6 months I’ll be disappointed about how little I’ve achieved, never-mind that my life circumstances and priorities will have changed by then, and I won’t get anywhere.
Resolutions tell you where you want to be but not how to get there. Instead of resolutions set goals. Small goals and often. They don’t have to be huge life changing things. Maybe it’s that you want to catch up with a friend this week or clean out your wardrobe. Whatever it is that you feel like you need.
If you’re aim is to save money then think about what you’re going to do differently in the short and long term. If you want to lose weight (especially if you’re already in the healthy range) then think about why you feel the need to. What would make you happier with yourself and your body? Are you doing this for you or because you think other people want you to and why does that matter?
The problem with setting goals though is that you are always seeking ‘more’. More than what you have. More than who you are. Achieving them won’t suddenly bring you happiness but maybe they’ll push you a little closer.
The most important thing I have to say is to make sure you spend time living. Actually living. Life isn’t all about the far off future, it’s also about where you are right now. If you spend it setting goals then when do you actually get to enjoy yourself?
This year I’m not making resolutions. I’m setting a goal and one goal only. I want to become happier and more accepting of who I am.